“Like a disjointed story, or a book with missing pages, a traumatic event doesn’t fit what came before or what comes after. ”
“Healing happens when another is able to bear witness to your pain with compassion until you are able to re-member who you are…”
FINDING A SOLUTION
The Hope Framework…
An Integration of Faith, Neurobiological & Brain-based Therapies
The HOPE Framework is the process of meeting you where you are & walking beside you as you journey to a new life of hope and healing.
Unexpected, uncomfortable struggles and broken places in life are NORMAL, but can challenge you or may be overwhelming your current ability to cope, leaving you feeling “stuck.”
I hear this word often! Yet, these very same problematic, painful experiences and distressed relationships CAN transform, bringing healing awarenesses, a mended heart, restored relationships, effectual changes, deepened meaning, focused purpose, and a renewed sense of love for self and others.
Let me help you come back home to your yourself—fully freed from any recurring melancholy, negative thinking or self-doubt; persistent ineffective behaviors or communication; problematic guilt, shame or anxiety; and ongoing relational pain, overwhelm or anger! I can help you and your relationships mend!
Understanding Trauma & Grief
Understanding Trauma
“Like a disjointed story, or a book with missing pages, a traumatic event doesn’t fit what came before or what comes after. ”
Gabor Mate’ in his new film, the Wisdom of Trauma says, “Trauma is what happens inside you, as a result of what happens to you,” and asserts that trauma is the disconnection from the true genuine authentic self of every human.
Like a disjointed story, or a book with missing pages, a traumatic event doesn’t fit what came before or what comes after. In these defining moments, the central nervous system is overwhelmed, altering the way we process and recall memories, creating emotional distress. In our best efforts to cope, we often end up in patterns of behavior that can leave us being even more isolated, alienated and feeling alone.
Thankfully, the story doesn’t have to end there…..Healing is available and the reconnection with your true genuine authentic self is entirely possible!
We are not broken and need fixing!!! Rather, we reorient to our Self, understanding and enabling gratitude for how we were able to protect ourselves in the past, we rework injuring past experiences, healing our body, hearts and minds, and we reconnect to our innate resources to flourish at our fullest capacity.
Understanding Grief
It is has been posited that how well we handle our losses determines how well we are in our living, and this idea has merits.
It is in the life altering moments of loss that assumptions are shattered, meaning is challenged and one’s identity may become convoluted, all the while one’s heart is broken.
“Healing happens when another is able to bear witness to your pain with compassion until you are able to re-member who you are…”
Whether facing death-related loss or ambiguous losses, such as broken relationships or the death of a dream, often friends and family cannot companion us because they are grief avoidant or they need us to be ok.
Healing happens when another is able to bear witness to your pain with compassion until you are able to re-member who you are, whether in the midst of, or despite the pain you find yourself in. If mined well for its wisdom for living, the grief experience can even be transformative!
As traumatic loss is all too common in our current epoch of gun violence, addiction, strained community relationships, and the coronavirus pandemic, working at the nexus of trauma and grief is important and unfortunately timely.
For those with longer term losses stemming from childhood or systemic trauma, allowing oneself to grieve what you did not get and deserved is equally as important as mending the pain of the harmful events themselves.
Whether death related or other losses, we can, with great gentleness and awareness, recognize our losses and live openly with them, making room for us to carry them differently over time. Joy and meaning can emerge again and help us live authentically with more joy in the present.